Meta: Sex & Such

[shinyglorchan]

While I was on the Hetalia Kink Meme, I found a link that I found a very good read. It was written last year during the World Cup, it seems. It's about penetration (and how that's not the be-all-end-all sex act) as well as bottoming =/= submissive (unless the person wants it to be).

Here's the link, and I'd like to say, I'm a bit guilty of some of thought processes here that I've picked up from the culture around me. For example, using the baseball bases metaphor. Like the post says: penetrative sex isn't the be all end all of sex.

That being said, fic-wise, fandom in general could benefit from this. I mean, really, tell me; when was the last time you read a fic with intercrural sex in it? What about a couple that just doesn't do penetrative sex? Hell, a fandom that doesn't have the term top-bottom, pitcher-catcher, seme-uke, ect.? Not very damn often, I'm betting.

All this being said, I'm not saying this to offend anyone. Just wanted to put the thoughts out there for broadening horizons. <3

Comments

[ran-pants.livejournal.com]

Yeah the whole "seme-uke" deal is part of why I got really turned off from anime for almost a year. I got involved in a fandom that was a really great escape. There was still a little bit of that "bottom = submissive" stuff, but it was more meant as a part of the characters' opinions on the subject, rather than some enforced gender roles that the fans actually believed.

[duae.livejournal.com]

Penetration is a kink. It is a fairly common kink so I think quite often people don't think about it AS a kink, but it is. So it annoys me a tiny bit that they automatically make the jump from penetration-as-erotica to penetration-IRL without noting the BIG DAMN LINE inbetween those. It's like lecturing vore fans that IRL cheetos don't get sexually aroused when you eat them. They're quite aware! It's a kink.

However I do really like the "Switching =/= healthy relationship. Healthy relationship is what makes both people happiest, and that may be the same thing each time."

[saphire-dance.livejournal.com]

I feel like I should go look over my fic and see if I've been bad about this. I know I've written a lot of sex that hasn't involved penetration, but I hope I haven't fallen into the trap of having set roles for the characters.